Today's Washington Post Style section features an article about a guy who is honest with women about relationships. So much so, that he became a consultant to Sex and the City, as the voice of the "straight male" in the scriptwriting. He has now written a book with the title, "He's Just Not That Into You." (I'll post a link as soon as I learn how to do it).
His point to women of all ages is as follows: If he doesn't call, doesn't commit, dates other people, is "too busy" to spend time with you or call, etc etc ad nauseum, the answer is very simple: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. To paraphrase him, "I don't care if I'm flying the space shuttle tomorrow morning," if a woman who interests him wants to get together, there is no way he'd let anything get in the way of getting together.
Short Story Long: What a genius and novel concept! Ladies, it's time to stop wondering and investigating and agonizing over "what you did or didn't do" or "what he really means" by not calling, committing or making time. It's crystal clear: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. It's a painful reality, but less painful than agonizing for days, weeks, months or even years about what *you* need to do differently to get him to call, commit or make time. The only thing you need to do differently is cut your losses and find the guy who DOES want to call, commit and make the time. Case in point: the author himself is now married with a 2-year old child. He knew his wife was The One when he found himself complying with her (sometimes not so) gentle insistence that he was going to have to perform at a higher level emotionally and personally to be with her. He started calling on time and making the time, and he got the girl.